Computer science should be considered dark arts

I'm currently in the midst of setting up a server running truenas scale and I've kind of reached a breaking point. I'm trying to make it possible to access opencloud via tailscale but can't seem to make it work. And thus I wondered, how tf are people doing it alone? Even having counteless tutorials, the allknowing AI and reddit I have no idea tf I'm doing. Cs majors, what kind of ancient gods have you called upon to deal with this mess of dns, proxy, reverse proxy and tunneling shenanigans.

Not a cs major obviously ahaha